Why men have extramarital affairs?
Talk about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on from old ages. Extramarital affairs can be filled with evils, cause sadness, and other problems. Plus you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness thing, money, age dissimilarity, religious background, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married dating.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking affairs. I think mostly though it is just the human state, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to switch the longing on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your relatives or anyone else? You will need to minimize the hazard you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest grouping, huge actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they feel comfy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to consider. Your money are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair at times solves the problem while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, generally the gentleman is sexually neglecting his female for a large humber of reasons. As a man I actually appreciate you guys neglecting your wives and making them available to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be compassion is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have simply developed apart, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.